10 rules to dating my teenage daughter

07-Apr-2019 17:04

Now that my boys are developing into young-version human beings…It’s all making sense. God only knows I’ve messed up enough in every other stage, and I only hope they can forget about my mistakes. Today my son becomes a teenager, and tomorrow he’ll be packing for college (God willing. Between conversations with other moms, plenty of books on the subject, and talking to my boys directly, I have come up with what I think are the eleven most important things… Make them clear and consistent, and have absolute consequences in place for when they break rules. Even the quietest ones will open up when given the chance. They get a lot more of an idea about what is right, wrong, good and bad from what you do than what you say. No, you’ll never be perfect, and you can tell your kid that–but don’t use that fact as an excuse to be lame. If you teach them to speak well of others, make sure you do the same. To listen, or discipline.share a joke, or a hug…you need to be in close proximity to your kids.

:)) He won’t forget these years, and neither will I. It happens almost every day, and sometimes many times a day: Teenagers are always changing. Get them alone, in the car or wherever you can, and make it clear that you WANT to hear about their interests, and their lives. This may be my very favorite thing about these years. Believe in him with your heart, and tell him that you do. For those moms that work long hours or cannot be physically involved in your children’s lives, I encourage you to creatively find solutions for this.

However, even if you have separate finances, you might have joint financial goals and joint long-term plans. This may be particularly hard since his daughter hasn’t been receptive to forming a relationship with you. When someone invites you to gift her 0 shoes, “Absolutely not! If you want 0 shoes you can spend your own money on them,” is a completely reasonable response. Here is what you should say to your step-daughter: you should congratulate her, express excitement about the wedding, and politely decline opportunities to gift her expensive things without bringing all your judgment about the whole wedding to the table.

Also, you can just say, “No, I think that’s not going to work for me,” and leave it there. You say you’re struggling to respect your partner, and yeah.

I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. But as time has gone on, I also realized that she knew something that I didn’t. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to.

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Yesterday she asked her father to ask me if I wanted to buy her wedding shoes as her gift—they cost 0. Well, it certainly sounds like this wedding is going to be quite expensive. You and your partner’s budget for how much of your joint finances you are willing to contribute?

She has had an engagement party that cost her parents ,000 (the couple took home ,000), and her bridal shower that cost ,000 (she took home ,000). Her mom had addiction issues in the past, and her daughter takes advantage of this, asking her mom to make up for it.

My partner is struggling to pay monthly for the costs already incurred. You say Daughter is “way over budget” for the wedding: Whose budget is this?

🙂 Yes–Dad’s are incredibly important, and one day I will get my husband to help address a dad’s role in a teenagers life. I’ve been told by a lot of parents that this post absolutely pertains to teen girls as well! I didn’t mean to leave them out, I just don’t have any girls so I didn’t feel qualified to claim that!

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Yesterday she asked her father to ask me if I wanted to buy her wedding shoes as her gift—they cost 0. Well, it certainly sounds like this wedding is going to be quite expensive. You and your partner’s budget for how much of your joint finances you are willing to contribute?

She has had an engagement party that cost her parents ,000 (the couple took home ,000), and her bridal shower that cost ,000 (she took home ,000). Her mom had addiction issues in the past, and her daughter takes advantage of this, asking her mom to make up for it.

My partner is struggling to pay monthly for the costs already incurred. You say Daughter is “way over budget” for the wedding: Whose budget is this?

🙂 Yes–Dad’s are incredibly important, and one day I will get my husband to help address a dad’s role in a teenagers life. I’ve been told by a lot of parents that this post absolutely pertains to teen girls as well! I didn’t mean to leave them out, I just don’t have any girls so I didn’t feel qualified to claim that!

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There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.